Tuesday, September 15, 2015

The Scapegoats of a Narcissistic Mother

The Scapegoats of a Narcissistic Mother by Gail Meyers book cover


© by Gail Meyers

The Scapegoats of a Narcissistic Mother will be available soon.  This book contains the things I wish I had known 30 years ago.  During the course of posting the essence of the book on the blog by the same name my computer, blogs, Facebook pages and even a couple of videos have been hacked.  So if you notice anything out of place, please let me know.

Additionally, videos are available on YouTube at Gail Meyers.

Thanks,
Gail


Update 6/08/2016: I am dealing with relentless hackings, harassment and even stalking. However, I anticipate being able to publish the book by late this year - 2016.

 

8 comments:

  1. It's the craziest thing I could ever imagine; discovering this was what was behind my horribly unhappy childhood and subsequent 30+ years; frickin' den of viper-meanies....I didn't stand a chance....good luck to them all trying to explain themselves when they are nose to nose with God;

    Mother-Made Moments

    Mother made moments should be soft and squishy, not filled w/terror or just plain icky; mother made moments should comfort and soothe, not leave you feeling like you've been royally screwed; they are supposed to feel like super softie towels fresh from the dryer, or kites on a breezy day, effortlessly lifting higher and higher........mother made moments should be strong as a boulder, full of helping hands-up you'll remember when you are older......they should wipe away the tears, address then erase all fears w/lovey-dovey hugs and mugs of freshly made hot coco w/the mini marshy-mellows floating on top.....mother made moments should leave you feeling wonderfully wise; squaring off your shoulders while looking people right in the eyes...they should give the gift of loving you just as you are, saying your apple-cheeks and eyes are brighter and prettier than all the stars.....mother made moments should be truly for your best, should be there always when ever you need a rest and offering wise counsel and a pencil to take notes with......mother made moments when scooped up altogether should be a big, fluffy bundle of waterproof love in any weather...a lifetime legacy celebration of truth that there's nothing and no one she loves more than you.....

    sigh.....oh well, whatever......Merry Christmas and big "yep it totally sucks but at least we aren't like them" hugs to everyone.

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  2. My "mother made moments" were crazy-making. She would "project" her character defects onto me and literally turn any situation to make it my fault. Any disagreement could never be ironed out because of the same outcome...the other person's' fault. Never her fault. The only consolation for me is that some day she will have to account for her actions, to God.

    I'm alone with my immediate family this Christmas. Feeling sadness but so much more peacful. I don't even know what they are doing. I'm in NC now and have been for 6 months.

    Merry Christmas everyone.

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  3. Mother Made Moments made me cry. It's that 'ideal' that we will never experience....and remains fantasies. But I am glad to read this because it went deep. It's all that we every wanted in life and as children.

    Lady Nyo

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  4. I am 43 and this is still ongoing n my family because my Mother has her claws into my kids...she has made them feel scared of losing her..I no longer have contact with her but I still miss the mother I imagine her to be in my head that she never lives up to in reality. I am the only child and I lost my partner in a tragic accident 2 years ago and my mother has made sure that none of my family have been there for me by demanding all the attention for herself for different reasons anytime they have tried to spend time with me...I feel extremely lonely and don't know how to cope with it right now

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  5. I am 43 and this is still ongoing n my family because my Mother has her claws into my kids...she has made them feel scared of losing her..I no longer have contact with her but I still miss the mother I imagine her to be in my head that she never lives up to in reality. I am the only child and I lost my partner in a tragic accident 2 years ago and my mother has made sure that none of my family have been there for me by demanding all the attention for herself for different reasons anytime they have tried to spend time with me...I feel extremely lonely and don't know how to cope with it right now

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  6. Thank you so much for all of this. For making me feel that I'm not alone. After 5 decades I can finally feel that there are others that also suffer. So many years to realize that it's not my fault and, they can never change. Only we can. In whatever way it takes to make ourselves whole. With no more guilt. It's not our fault. It's them that's toxic. Again, all of these words, so much appreciated, and respected.

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  7. Thank you Gail for all your work and writing and sharing. You have saved my life.

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  8. NO CONTACT was the only thing that gave me peace and saved my pelt. With my whole birth family because they are under the control of the main narcissist. People don't understand this NC, even those who write extensively about family narcissism. They think it's 'abnormal or cruel'....but then they really haven't experienced the 'death' of the victims of family narcissism. 5 years on, it was the only thing that saved my life. And these people consider themselves Christians! Horrible.

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