tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post2597056343313746387..comments2023-08-31T08:12:11.803-05:00Comments on Narcissistic Abuse: Echo Recovery by Gail Meyers: Comments on The Scapegoat of the Narcissistic Personality Disordered MotherGail Meyershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comBlogger77125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-77692666536729109932017-05-10T17:56:58.622-05:002017-05-10T17:56:58.622-05:00I am absolutely speechless thank you SO SO MUCH FO...I am absolutely speechless thank you SO SO MUCH FOR THESE INSIGHTFUL, EDUCATIONAL articles I'm overwhelmed with joy right now to find someone FINALLY Who "Gets it."<br /> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11214678771783527509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-41338210815023906102017-05-10T17:39:47.283-05:002017-05-10T17:39:47.283-05:00This article/blog is the Precise thing/answer I ne...This article/blog is the Precise thing/answer I needed Today! Gail Meyer "Thank you!!!" After 51 years I've found someone who "gets it" it's as though I were writing this myself, the words you use express exactly my experience, my life, my Narcisstic mother who I live with/take care of as she has terminal cancer too. <br /> P. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11214678771783527509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-50026373247102808582017-03-20T19:30:23.319-05:002017-03-20T19:30:23.319-05:00I'm sorry you feel that way, Seven Seer. In my...I'm sorry you feel that way, Seven Seer. In my experience narcissists would love for you to believe there is no God. I have seen narcissists overtly and methodically mock and blaspheme Scripture and even attempt to play God. Recall what was articulated as being Satan's sin and downfall. Narcissists often appear to pursue the precise same thing. Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-53922937806662836332016-10-06T04:55:07.886-05:002016-10-06T04:55:07.886-05:00I am not married and already 32. You're very w...I am not married and already 32. You're very words 'She has no one else!', it hurts, because its true, I care for my Mom (who adopted me). Its so painful I don't know what to do. Everything I do right now is hanging by a thin red line. No man bravely asks for my hand in marriage, all because of my situation. They literally feel the tension at home. It's so difficult...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-16134433986195870742016-08-09T02:46:13.021-05:002016-08-09T02:46:13.021-05:00'god' is another lie of narcissists'god' is another lie of narcissists Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11936201772777912561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-53987184404133475182016-06-15T18:10:58.195-05:002016-06-15T18:10:58.195-05:00Incredible analysis! I have two brothers. One 5 ye...Incredible analysis! I have two brothers. One 5 years younger, one six years. Just shy of 11 years old, the older brother - or as you put it 'Golden Child', had a scheme going on where he would kidnap ferrell cats, mate them - then sell the kittens by putting ads in pennysaver. One day, while people were coming over to purchase these furry kittens as purportedly being 'Persian' Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-39668731198906353162016-05-05T14:08:36.045-05:002016-05-05T14:08:36.045-05:00Hello--I am reading this blog for the first time a...Hello--I am reading this blog for the first time and thought I'd share my story.<br /><br /><br />The entire family on my mother's side cut me off about a year ago. Since that time, I have been dealing with hostile gossip, occasional ugly letters or phone calls, and various kinds of accusations. My mother began telling people around her that my boyfriend is physically abusive to me. I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-58836845415766022762015-12-18T22:57:03.676-06:002015-12-18T22:57:03.676-06:00Gail, I love your blog. This is the second time I...Gail, I love your blog. This is the second time I have read in the comments section that they are bullied at work and that everyone just seems to know to pick on them. This person says that we stick out like sore thumbs. Gail, I am desperate to hold a job. What are they seeing that lets them know to pick on us? Thanks so much for your blog sister, it is a lifeline from heaven.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-27287047961875539502015-12-18T22:19:11.685-06:002015-12-18T22:19:11.685-06:00My spiritual mother, my cousin, and the only older...My spiritual mother, my cousin, and the only older female figure I had in my life after my NM died suggested suicide as well. For me that was letting her mask slip and I knew right then who was the evil one. She also let me know she was saying imprecatory prayers against me (witchcraft.) There's more, but thats enough for you to get the picture. My dear Anonymous, if you are still in thatAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-53603459156096987452015-09-21T22:35:23.791-05:002015-09-21T22:35:23.791-05:00I am 36 years old and just now really putting a na...I am 36 years old and just now really putting a name to what I've been dealing with my whole life. Reading all of your stories is like reliving my 36 years again. I have a narcissistic mother & sister who love to "tag team" me. I've always been very forgiving and let things go. However this year my mother deliberately went after my 7 year old son. & in turn, his twin Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-9232382344699262342015-09-01T21:45:07.268-05:002015-09-01T21:45:07.268-05:00Hello Gail,
I am the scapegoat daughter of a harri...Hello Gail,<br />I am the scapegoat daughter of a harridan from hell.I married a man just like her and now have a child just like her!My mother dominate my every waking moment in some way or the other.<br />she is dying now, and I have been NC for the last 2 yrs.I have no wish to go see that gasbag , but she is getting desperate and keeps sending minions over to my house...will it get worse?.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-57727334828775276962015-07-05T20:59:00.563-05:002015-07-05T20:59:00.563-05:00My mother has some narcissistic traits as far as b...My mother has some narcissistic traits as far as being extremely controlling and having to take credit for everything that's good but blaming for everything that's bad, but I doubt that she has complete NPD. Yet, I am the scapegoat; I think that I replaced my older sister as the scapegoat after she developed a mental illness and had to leave. <br /><br />My mother was extremely Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-60930882791623336492015-06-12T22:22:59.261-05:002015-06-12T22:22:59.261-05:00Thank you. Very familiar to me. I was the scapegoa...Thank you. Very familiar to me. I was the scapegoat. My mother was the narcissist and my father her enabler, and his motive for enabling was that my mother earned a big salary while he stayed home and sexually molested me. That was my home life growing up - being my father's sex slave. He was so calculating that he left my sisters alone so that no one would support my testimony. He was not Shelagh Stephennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-32809009762476256842015-06-10T19:35:09.575-05:002015-06-10T19:35:09.575-05:00Narcissistic people generally have two sides. One...Narcissistic people generally have two sides. One acts honorable, sweet, nice, kind, the other well you know. Why is it I don't hear of the other side to the N mother? Mine was amazing, and at the same time sabotaging my life. This is so confusing. Mine also admitted, and apologized, shed a tear for a half a second. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-83789442612789770942015-06-04T08:36:20.116-05:002015-06-04T08:36:20.116-05:00part 2
My brother didn’t call me for months durin...part 2<br /><br />My brother didn’t call me for months during Dad’s illness, and I didn’t call him either. I thought things were OK between us, and I didn’t know my brother had been needing to talk to me. At the end of April my brother's wife contacted me, telling me Dad’s condition was really bad (I had kept up with her some through text). I tried to reach my brother and he wouldn’t take my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-46874896432160771122015-06-04T08:36:00.513-05:002015-06-04T08:36:00.513-05:00My father died two weeks ago. He was an alcoholic ...My father died two weeks ago. He was an alcoholic and mentally abusive to me and to my younger brother when we were teenagers and to me through my adult years. My father died of cancer, and he drank right up until his diagnosis.<br /><br />I have gotten a lot of negative correspondence from family members within the last six months because of conflict within my family (I went limited contact withAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-56130417975100108982015-04-19T07:28:47.632-05:002015-04-19T07:28:47.632-05:00Horrific is the word, Anonymous. Unlike you, I am...Horrific is the word, Anonymous. Unlike you, I am the result of 'parents who stayed together' but I wish never even met each other. The character of George Costanza said that on one episode...'the result of parents who stayed together...' and I so relate to George on certain levels.<br /><br />People who never experienced extremely narcissistic parents don't understand what Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-41158312721620195622015-04-12T15:38:20.089-05:002015-04-12T15:38:20.089-05:00Wow,..I have just read this entire thread of horri...Wow,..I have just read this entire thread of horrific family experiences with N parents. My heart goes out to every single one of you in the unbelievable pain and trauma having to be endured.I am dealing with the final end of my step siblings relationship..2 step sisters one step brother. I have been estranged from them off and on most of my life they live in the same area but I was 1600 miles Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-44151482633595492062015-03-21T07:43:57.638-05:002015-03-21T07:43:57.638-05:00I so feel and understand your pain, Anonymous. My ...I so feel and understand your pain, Anonymous. My NM passed away almost 3 months ago and I had NC with her for the last 2 years. I was her only child. I was not allowed to help with any of the funeral arrangments and was almost forbidden to come. I did go, but I was shunned by many of the people there. I and my 3 sons were left out of any memorial pictures at the funeral. It was so hurtful. Of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-47121519348768862792015-03-17T20:57:31.608-05:002015-03-17T20:57:31.608-05:00I am so sorry for your pain. Thank you for sharing...I am so sorry for your pain. Thank you for sharing some of your story with us. Please reach out for help if you need it. You can find some resources, validation and many other survivors if you would like to join us on FB. The link is in the right margin. Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-84363418524133479882015-03-17T00:23:21.425-05:002015-03-17T00:23:21.425-05:00Hi, I just want to thank you so much for opening u...Hi, I just want to thank you so much for opening up so much understanding about this condition. Its very lonely not knowing, it's very lonely anyway as nobody seems to understand what it really is to be emotionally hunted, used and humiliated by your own mother; well adopted mother.<br />When she was dying of lung cancer I so wanted to be near her. She had caused so much pain in my life andAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-81258037201431936312015-01-16T09:36:04.862-06:002015-01-16T09:36:04.862-06:00Dear Ladynyo
I am so proud of you. Writing is ...Dear Ladynyo<br /> I am so proud of you. Writing is probably the best catharsis for having been damaged. It is hard to believe that narcissism exists to the degree that it does...in our own parents! <br /> My mother was diagnosed with NPD years ago. She is now deceased. In ways, she was not as awful as your mother...but she was uncaring (even said she did not care). We were an obvious Pat B. Tinylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00156465069545558684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-46152998069925644812014-12-10T05:57:54.421-06:002014-12-10T05:57:54.421-06:00It is heartbreaking to see how N are treating ppl ...It is heartbreaking to see how N are treating ppl and how Your stepfather suffered from her abuse and afterwards died on a hospital after te NPD M`s behaviour against him. NPD mother are 81 and after I started examine myself on narcissim you look into something who gets more ugly and far more worse than you even imagined N also tends to say inappopriate things to their children, like when yrVåre røtterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02688430861260273367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-39984878697452853862014-12-09T18:12:11.034-06:002014-12-09T18:12:11.034-06:00To think that I have spent all of my life on this ...To think that I have spent all of my life on this issue is so sad. I am 52 years old now, my NPD mother is near 80. I had all my family here at my house for Christmas last year (a reunion after a decade). My stepfather was getting sick but afraid to tell my NPD mother because she gets angry at him, they came anyway. In front of all of us, she raged at him for cancelling an event to see otherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-29403468742767663662014-12-09T05:26:17.891-06:002014-12-09T05:26:17.891-06:00To suggest suicide to anyone is just not normal. W...To suggest suicide to anyone is just not normal. We may love them, the N`s more they love us, while they are in fact not capable of love. My Father commited suicide, in two days it will be 16 years since . Thogh my M divorced him in 1973 he run all his life , also in to other relationships from day 1. When his last relationship ended after his anxiety showed up and he was paranoid. My N Våre røtterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02688430861260273367noreply@blogger.com