tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post7369231374560183083..comments2023-08-31T08:12:11.803-05:00Comments on Narcissistic Abuse: Echo Recovery by Gail Meyers: How Do You Grieve the Death of a Narcissistic Mother? Gail Meyershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comBlogger102125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-37913046490999616342017-06-06T22:28:54.300-05:002017-06-06T22:28:54.300-05:00Hello Anonymous. Thank you for taking the time to ...Hello Anonymous. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. I just want to let you know there is a folder/album on Narcissistic Personality Disorder Mother Facebook Resource Page with photos (meme quotes) with links to helpful articles. When you first pull the page up, go to the post pinned to the top of the page and click on the site map. - GailGail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-38508552684892280152017-06-06T22:15:24.254-05:002017-06-06T22:15:24.254-05:00Hello Anonymous. I am sorry for your loss. Please ...Hello Anonymous. I am sorry for your loss. Please join us on Facebook at Narcissistic Personality Disorder Mother. Also, pinned to the top of the feed of that page is a welcome post. If you open it you will find a link to the site map. If you go down the list of folders/albums, you will see one on The Death of a Narcissistic Mother that might be validating and helpful to you. - GailGail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-12877567516864037812017-06-06T21:16:59.375-05:002017-06-06T21:16:59.375-05:00Hello Damaged Daughter. I hope you are doing well,...Hello Damaged Daughter. I hope you are doing well, and I just want to let you know we have a small folder (photo album with meme quotes rather than photos) on Narcissistic Personality Disorder Mother Facebook Resource Page that you (and others) might find helpful and validating. When you pull up the page, there is a welcome photo pinned to the top of the feed. On it there is a site map, then lookGail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-91837534474243860072017-06-06T21:11:44.889-05:002017-06-06T21:11:44.889-05:00Hazel, let me know how your book publishing went o...Hazel, let me know how your book publishing went or is going. As you may know, I have had some extenuating circumstances. So, my apologies that this response is so late! I generally can be reached on Narcissistic Personality Disorder Mother Facebook Resource Page, but lately I have been unable to read or respond to messages. Hopefully, that will be fixed soon and we can chat. - GailGail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-81130448525589991222017-06-06T20:56:29.577-05:002017-06-06T20:56:29.577-05:00Thanks for sharing this, Theresa!Thanks for sharing this, Theresa!Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-62709727521661228352017-06-06T20:55:16.533-05:002017-06-06T20:55:16.533-05:00I agree, Kimberlee. It was and is hard to fathom b...I agree, Kimberlee. It was and is hard to fathom being on your deathbed and not wanting to make peace. Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-17212783965543104852017-05-13T17:51:08.477-05:002017-05-13T17:51:08.477-05:00Thank you *so much* for this, Gail. I wonder some...Thank you *so much* for this, Gail. I wonder sometimes what things will be like when I find myself in this situation as the surviving child, and your article helped. "Meemur"https://www.blogger.com/profile/14405652694178628942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-63370518337020352062017-05-11T21:46:33.142-05:002017-05-11T21:46:33.142-05:00I was older when my parents died within a year of ...I was older when my parents died within a year of each other. One of them was a narrasist it seems to me now as I understand the disorder and knew of his upbringing. It seems classic. Went through anger when I was younger-but not now. Don't do it to yourself. Life is very, very short and you're wasting your beauty and energy on those who can't give you what you want because they Anontmoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13808462207660904069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-30812987063404138302017-05-10T18:40:14.901-05:002017-05-10T18:40:14.901-05:00I am numb. I am just beginning this walk of unders...I am numb. I am just beginning this walk of understanding what a nm is. Without knowing, I walked away from a sil who is a narc, as well as two other people. I believe I been a magnet to these types of people after many, many years of living in these abusive relationships. <br />Now, my mother is aging and beginning to lose the sharpness of her mind. But oh, the games are there. Your verbage is Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-86163358248838507132017-05-04T15:07:24.096-05:002017-05-04T15:07:24.096-05:00Thank you! Thank you! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02567842570219291751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-56489426485335729982017-04-27T07:29:20.168-05:002017-04-27T07:29:20.168-05:00Gail, I read your article and I could have written...Gail, I read your article and I could have written it. My brother passed Feb. 9 and my mother on April 16, 2017. I always knew my mother treated me differently, but did not understand until I read the book, "Will I ever be Good Enough", by Karyl McBride, Ph.D. I spent 4 and 1/2 months caring for my brother and mother, living with her 24/7, away from my home and family. It was all Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-34623239831646950112017-03-23T04:02:46.407-05:002017-03-23T04:02:46.407-05:00Totally relate to this my old man died Sunday. All...Totally relate to this my old man died Sunday. All the flying monkies trying to make my children b at his death bed & then demanding they go to funeral. They've been NOC a year. Why would i let my kids near someone who hated me so much. The abuse by proxy his harsh but i will ignore them all. <br />Narcsurvivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03075701230261824712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-70337131021524490242017-03-21T05:28:16.624-05:002017-03-21T05:28:16.624-05:00My mother died 4 days after my birthday in august ...My mother died 4 days after my birthday in august 2016.<br />I didn't attend the funeral or cemetery since her burial. My life has been chaotic since then. Right after her death my brother her flying monkey and golden child (secret love child from her decades long affair with her first cousin..which genetically hurt him). .was very adamant in getting rid of me by immediately making the move Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14791468449814271143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-52856633571745224772017-01-25T12:56:39.430-06:002017-01-25T12:56:39.430-06:00I am in debt to you. My NPD Mother In Law just pas...I am in debt to you. My NPD Mother In Law just passed and I am looking for ways to help my husband through it. Your post is to the "T" and explains-describes things in a way I never heard before. I have just finished reading this for the third time and still find things that I can either quote or use as an example. My relationship with my Mother In Law was also strained. Strained to theAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07950675084368780104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-57597968401626787722017-01-20T20:33:31.107-06:002017-01-20T20:33:31.107-06:00I'm so confused right now. My mom just died an...I'm so confused right now. My mom just died and I am so very sad. I wanted so desperately to fix everything for her.. A friend told me that maybe this is for the best because she was not always very nice to me. I feel that people think that I should not be grieving for her but I am. My heart is so heavy because of how she died. She was mistreated in a recovery home after breaking her foot.(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-15278480569478404172017-01-19T21:15:06.718-06:002017-01-19T21:15:06.718-06:00Wow. That is well said! Your insight has really co...Wow. That is well said! Your insight has really confirmed for me what it is I'm dealing with as well. It's great to be confident in my decision to cut off my N mom, alcoholic dad, and flying monkey brother. <br />I fluctuate between rage at them and guilt for not speaking to anyone. I know I'd be walking into the wolf's den taking shot after shot if I initiate contact.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060801603900385310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-72822947111915797182016-11-23T01:19:13.186-06:002016-11-23T01:19:13.186-06:00Dear Gail,
I needed to read your article.
My nar...Dear Gail, <br />I needed to read your article. <br />My narcissist mom is diagnosed with breast cancer and it seems very agressive. <br />I don't have contact since 2010. I went through many therapies, read a lot about narcissist and bordeline personnality disorder parents and how to survive them. I went through a lot of greiving already, long before she had cancer. <br />Now, I'm taken Maribihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10628639160749881594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-63394231241847519482016-11-16T14:22:39.571-06:002016-11-16T14:22:39.571-06:00Thank you Gail. My mother died 8 months ago. My ...Thank you Gail. My mother died 8 months ago. My life mirrors aspects of yours and so many people who have posted. My son sadly died a year before my mother and I thought the genuine grief that I felt for losing him left nothing for her but really I know that her passing was a relief. Reaching puberty I became a threat to her and she used to tell me that I needed plastic surgery for the bump Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-88320498931130114782016-11-15T17:38:13.292-06:002016-11-15T17:38:13.292-06:00Thank you for answering my question, Gail. I asked...Thank you for answering my question, Gail. I asked precisely that question and in such a "public forum" but never received a response of any kind what so ever.<br />Much of what you've said holds perfectly true for me. I loved her but it was a relief when she was gone. I grieve more for the people she destroyed. I grieve for who we could have been without her. I want to be angry butRenee Stewart Jacksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01613259079485040410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-10069178824372954042016-10-24T02:48:10.871-05:002016-10-24T02:48:10.871-05:00Thanks to everyone for sharing your stories! I'...Thanks to everyone for sharing your stories! I'm so very glad I came upon this post. It's nice to have the opportunity to share mine with people who will understand - especially today. <br /> <br />I apologize in advance for this very long post. First a bit of background: I am a 54 year old female, married, with two sons, 23 & 20. My father died when I was 21 and I have little familyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-26257672687869614692016-10-05T07:15:06.392-05:002016-10-05T07:15:06.392-05:00My mother died 2 months ago. I had nc for 2 years ...My mother died 2 months ago. I had nc for 2 years before that and didn't go to the funeral. It was a death I experienced like no other.<br />Grateful and relieved she no longer suffered...and could no longer hurt me...sorry we never had a real relationship. ..hopefully I could now move on and let it all go.<br />Spirituality played big role in letting God take care of the person He created...Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14791468449814271143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-71302378469424951882016-10-04T18:36:38.492-05:002016-10-04T18:36:38.492-05:00Going on 6 years in therapy, December. Mom passing...Going on 6 years in therapy, December. Mom passing just 11 days ago was easier than I thought it would be, but it comes with many complex emotions and combinations of emotions like clusters. I dream, feel sad, emotional and even some physical stress and pain. I miss some of my moms presence and sad too for her life and mine as well as with sis could have been better had she sought help. Sister Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06483471524976108663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-29215868950153358702016-10-01T08:22:04.231-05:002016-10-01T08:22:04.231-05:00Tell her now. Seriously. In your heart of hearts...Tell her now. Seriously. In your heart of hearts, you know that had you have told her while she was still alive, it would have fallen on deaf ears. You'd have been "marginalized," been belittled, told how "dramatic," you were or other such demeaning jabs. Tell her now. You are in the driver's seat of your own life, not her. You own your own world, make it the oneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-19322944464015828952016-10-01T08:16:23.694-05:002016-10-01T08:16:23.694-05:00That's healthy and good on you. Go find that ...That's healthy and good on you. Go find that real you and live the hell out of it! Your post inspired me, thanks. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-84028060266955101952016-10-01T08:13:11.783-05:002016-10-01T08:13:11.783-05:00I'm right there with you. As the author of th...I'm right there with you. As the author of the article stated, turning that rage into compassion and pity helps. Narcissists lead pathetic and shallow existences, sucking us into their vortex of pain. Their "legacy," is their lies and manipulations. You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends. My plan is to go zero contact with any of them and drop off the mapAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com