tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post4493119567003397590..comments2023-08-31T08:12:11.803-05:00Comments on Narcissistic Abuse: Echo Recovery by Gail Meyers: Comments on Narcissistic Mothers Gaslight the Scapegoat Child by Gail MeyersGail Meyershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-80507548895402715552017-01-28T06:24:07.015-06:002017-01-28T06:24:07.015-06:00Flying monkeys is excellent term...I am scapegoat ...Flying monkeys is excellent term...I am scapegoat in my family. Oldest daughter, enlisted to raise younger siblings while mother "worked on herself so she could eventually leave" our abusive father. She never left him in time to preserve our safety and her consistent absence left us vulnerable to him. Not that she ever protected us anyway, only I protected anyone and now I am the &Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09978488623790325302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-33162504420642715072016-07-22T08:28:30.054-05:002016-07-22T08:28:30.054-05:00Agreed!! 100% Agreed!! 100% Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02468183209037434144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-59886748425204590432015-12-01T21:40:01.509-06:002015-12-01T21:40:01.509-06:00Emotional abuse doesn't exist in the court'...Emotional abuse doesn't exist in the court's eyes. I hope that some day it will.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01209623247128045949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-29573631702987907522015-05-11T17:37:40.350-05:002015-05-11T17:37:40.350-05:00I have never commented on a blog before, but I am ...I have never commented on a blog before, but I am feeling more than a little desperate about my mother's relationship with me. I am female. I can remember as a child, I tried so hard to be "good." Not even realizing what I had done wrong - just that mom was unhappy and ignoring me, I remember saying over and over again, "I'm sorry mom, I'm so sorry, I'm sorry, I soAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-35995058981918058802015-04-15T08:55:02.412-05:002015-04-15T08:55:02.412-05:00I have a step-daughter who has been abused for mos...I have a step-daughter who has been abused for most of her childhood by her gaslighting mother. At one point, her mother told her that she had never been married before nor was she ever pregnant with another child when my step-daughter brought up the man she married. For the record, my step-daughter attended the wedding as a flower girl with pictures and a marriage certificate to prove it. MyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-53791220380914114002015-03-29T07:58:56.326-05:002015-03-29T07:58:56.326-05:00Wow, Julia Angelina, I identify so much with the s...Wow, Julia Angelina, I identify so much with the story of your mother. It's hard to believe they went on hating and scapegoating her after her death. How much did you have to do with her family when she was still alive? How did your father react to the scapegoating of his wife? Do you think they made your aunt the new scapegoat after your mother's death? Very sad story. I too, have Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-30977315764864316152015-03-23T11:21:53.245-05:002015-03-23T11:21:53.245-05:00To add as I went over the character limit:
I sent...To add as I went over the character limit:<br /><br />I sent them packing and will not allow others to ruin the happiest day of my life. I would like your readers to know that there is great hope. I did break free and basically have nothing to do with them. I have never been as content and pray that God will continue to bless me. Good luck to you all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-47935981523127665692015-03-23T11:21:02.395-05:002015-03-23T11:21:02.395-05:00I found this website to be particularly helpful. M...I found this website to be particularly helpful. My mother is a narcissist and I can identify with everything posted but gaslighting is a particular favourite of my mother's. <br /><br />When I was a young toddler, less than two years old, I was rushed to hospital as I was in extreme pain due to not being able to urinate for the last three days. It was a neighbour who called the ambulance as Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-20190928765389175372015-03-15T00:23:50.918-05:002015-03-15T00:23:50.918-05:00Also, I am so very sorry that your mother said som...Also, I am so very sorry that your mother said something so horrible to you regarding your grandmother. As someone else suggested, please get as far away from your mum as possible. Although, I believe all change is possible through God, if one is not able to come to the light of truth, they simply will never change....Gidgetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-67948127320001930022015-03-15T00:19:47.577-05:002015-03-15T00:19:47.577-05:00Oh yeah, God is healing me from all the damage don...Oh yeah, God is healing me from all the damage done to me by my family.....Gidgetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-7680438880205392762015-03-15T00:18:57.821-05:002015-03-15T00:18:57.821-05:00Anonymous, I am so proud of you. And, I am not ag...Anonymous, I am so proud of you. And, I am not against you. You and I share a common bond: God. God is the one thing that mum did not count on, my Heavenly Father saved my life. Just recently after telling her off, and vowing no contact, I told her I prayed that one day she would repent. Keep being strong....Gidgetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-66501870403706479032015-03-15T00:12:07.966-05:002015-03-15T00:12:07.966-05:00Anonymous, that "no contact" thing is de...Anonymous, that "no contact" thing is definitely the way to go. Recently, I took the plunge and went no contact, so far it's scary, frightening, and painful, but freeing, wonderfully terrific, and the best thing I ever did. Enjoy your life, glad you realized who you are and who your mother really is, a narcissistic and manipulating mother. The question I'd like to ask is, areGidgetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-86892854857047120552015-03-14T23:51:41.907-05:002015-03-14T23:51:41.907-05:00Well, as a fellow person of a narcissistic mother,...Well, as a fellow person of a narcissistic mother, if these family members actually believe the lies of this master manipulator, even though you'd suggested proof of the contrary in your defense, and they are not willing to hear you out, then they, too, are part of the problem and not the solution. You do not need this type of people within your life, stay clear of them.Gidgetnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-29517368562035936452014-12-04T16:34:43.561-06:002014-12-04T16:34:43.561-06:00This is the first half of Julia's comment that...This is the first half of Julia's comment that was inadvertently deleted...<br /><br />julia.angelinaNovember 18, 2014 at 2:00 PM<br /><br />This all makes so much sense to me. So eye opening.<br /><br />My mother died when I was 10, and by all accounts of those who knew her she was a warm, funny, intelligent, generous person. Her viewing was the most attended the funeral home had ever seen. Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-3507201688884608332014-11-18T16:00:52.339-06:002014-11-18T16:00:52.339-06:00Continued from above...
So of course all these ta...Continued from above...<br /><br />So of course all these tales just left me wanting to know more. Like ok let's go, what is the REAL reason here? But there isn't any. My grandmother is a petty narcissist who holds a grudge closer to her heart than her grandchildren, and a baseless grudge at that. So I get it now. My mom was the scapegoat. And I never understood why they were so awful to julia.angelinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12083226676331404043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-16753911491520408232014-10-17T22:22:49.559-05:002014-10-17T22:22:49.559-05:00Thank you for all your articles. That feeling of ...Thank you for all your articles. That feeling of going crazy is something I'll never forget. One time when I was a kid, on Christmas Eve while we were all at the table my mother asked if I wanted a second serving of lunch and I said I wasn't hungry anymore. Then she started yelling very angrily at me for talking back and threatened to take my Christmas presents away. I had no idea why Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-39811025385085999422014-08-29T23:42:18.854-05:002014-08-29T23:42:18.854-05:00Anonymous, my heart goes out to you in the pain yo...Anonymous, my heart goes out to you in the pain you have endured. Your father sounds like a very abusive man. I hope you do remove yourself from abusive situations. What do you mean your father experiments on you? Have you considered getting a therapist? I have also always found that keeping a journal helps provide validation and clarity. Please join us on Facebook. The link is in the Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-52893824126267503902014-08-29T23:17:17.666-05:002014-08-29T23:17:17.666-05:00Wow, I can relate to pretty much every word of you...Wow, I can relate to pretty much every word of your comment. It does shine a whole different light on it when you have your own children, grandchildren, etc. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-32968940440347974942014-08-24T23:34:46.636-05:002014-08-24T23:34:46.636-05:00I always go through this with my dad who scapegoat...I always go through this with my dad who scapegoats me, blames me for everything, even teaches young children in the family that I am ignoring them or that they should ignore me without telling them the truth, that I am not to speak to them or rather he takes them away so I can't. My mother is his robot/dog. She completely becomes disloyal to me the second he enters the house, even if she Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-87910880705579346902014-02-19T21:59:06.716-06:002014-02-19T21:59:06.716-06:00You're welcome. Things sure haven't been e...You're welcome. Things sure haven't been easy and most people don't fully understand. With social networking smearing attempts have been quite easy for my Mother. Fortunately, the fires were extinguished without my intervention due to her having burnt many bridges with others and my good reputation. I am however,forever damaged; I was raised being told I was loved but treated cruelly Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-72853113772635154492014-02-19T20:15:44.832-06:002014-02-19T20:15:44.832-06:00I am sorry for your pain, but glad you set a bound...I am sorry for your pain, but glad you set a boundary of no contact to protect yourself. Thank you for sharing your story with us.Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-65329983206795558412014-02-19T13:48:35.831-06:002014-02-19T13:48:35.831-06:00My mother and my brother used to gaslight me tag t...My mother and my brother used to gaslight me tag team style to the point that I asked to go to an institution. I guess to avoid the real truth coming out and social service intervention, my cowardly step-father took me aside and explained that they were lying to me to upset me and that he would get them to stop and say sorry. They never did but that tiny intervention by him stopped me from Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-8756160392666414742013-12-24T11:19:13.181-06:002013-12-24T11:19:13.181-06:00Anonymous, the situation you articulate sounds ver...Anonymous, the situation you articulate sounds very familiar. A few months after my mother died after "selflessly" demanding 24/7 care for two years, my scapegoat brother passed alone and ostracized. She nearly took me down to the grave with her, too. <br /><br />Thank God she has not been able to separate you from God, although my guess is she has probably tried. What a horribleGail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-38573010341051278532013-12-24T09:26:59.662-06:002013-12-24T09:26:59.662-06:00Thanks to this blog for bringing more light to my ...Thanks to this blog for bringing more light to my shattered soul. I have been suffering all kinds of mental abuse from my mother for forty years or so. Thanks God I was raised by my lovely grand mother who was also one of my mother´s scapegoats. My parents separated when I was 6 months old, my mother went to the big city to work. My brother remained with my father¨s family and I was given to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-17223654770562949752013-12-06T11:14:06.226-06:002013-12-06T11:14:06.226-06:00Anonymous, everything you have shared sounds spot ...Anonymous, everything you have shared sounds spot on for a narcissistic mother in my experience. Weddings and holidays seem to be two celebrations they just can't seem to resist ruining. I hope your new sister-in-law watches her back because she is the one narcissist mom will usually compete with or sabotage. <br /><br />I am so glad you went no contact! Thank you for sharing your Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.com