tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post6172659322086819483..comments2023-08-31T08:12:11.803-05:00Comments on Narcissistic Abuse: Echo Recovery by Gail Meyers: Comments on How the Narcissist's Silent Treatment Speaks So LoudlyGail Meyershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-45775722261659395552016-08-12T19:18:43.735-05:002016-08-12T19:18:43.735-05:00Can you imagine? Three months to my dad and afterw...Can you imagine? Three months to my dad and afterwards 14 months to us, the children, because she think we draw party for dad!Obelix Magnet Fishinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14474759901134898563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-12308054534093871122015-11-05T16:48:01.736-06:002015-11-05T16:48:01.736-06:00Thank you for this article. I truly believe that ...Thank you for this article. I truly believe that my mother is giving me the silent treatment as punishment and means to control me. When I used to live with her in her house, she would threaten to kick me out or she would take things she has given me away, such as my car. Now that I am moved out and on my own the only way she can control or punish me whenever she feels I did something wrong orAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-62082743988161793402015-04-18T04:10:04.739-05:002015-04-18T04:10:04.739-05:00My father is a chronic-impulsive liar, a male chau...My father is a chronic-impulsive liar, a male chauvinist and a narcissist. He criticized others to make himself feel good. You bet he spends hours watching news channel so that he can blurt comments like, "that's why stupid people like you go to jail" or "I won't do what you did because you are stupid". Because of him, I feel uncomfortable at work and I am a person whoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-45022028813147106302015-03-31T13:38:45.566-05:002015-03-31T13:38:45.566-05:00You tell her NOTHING.
So far you have begged, gro...You tell her NOTHING. <br />So far you have begged, groveled, pleaded and frantically attempted to open a dialogue through a variety of means, all to no avail. You were cruelly excluded from the funeral-you do realize, of course, all of this was done INTENTIONALLY, in a premeditated sadistic fashion.<br />No, you are NOT "as bad as she is" by refusing to further denigrate yourself in Tundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262066568878267648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-90881944239043407772015-02-23T10:52:16.180-06:002015-02-23T10:52:16.180-06:00Wow. I finally found what I was looking for. I w...Wow. I finally found what I was looking for. I wish I had read this four years ago. Four years ago, my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer and I noticed that my calls were going unanswered. I left messages, I begged, I tried everything I could think of to get my mom to talk to me again. Two years into it, I gave up and started telling people the truth, which INFURIATED the NM. How Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-66182454450681824312014-12-23T22:28:53.510-06:002014-12-23T22:28:53.510-06:00Thank you so much for this article!
My dad is t...Thank you so much for this article! <br /><br />My dad is the NPD (have had zero contact in 7 years!) but my mom has some sort of enabling/slight NPD too. My brother is the golden child and I tend to become the scapegoat. Years ago I knew further contact with my dad was bad news, but it hasn't been until the past couple of years that I've realized just how toxic my relationship is withAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-26417776439574282462014-12-15T11:36:03.363-06:002014-12-15T11:36:03.363-06:00As another holiday approaches, I feel myself with ...As another holiday approaches, I feel myself with that sinking feeling of being rejected and misunderstood by my family all over again. My mother is at the center of it all. Over the years, she has always had her favorites...favorite child, favorite grandchildren, etc...usually the one that doesn't challenge her and boosts her image as an upstanding, compassionate volunteer, friend and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-72542827388597576362014-10-17T21:02:56.265-05:002014-10-17T21:02:56.265-05:00I used to get the silent treatment often while gro...I used to get the silent treatment often while growing up. I used to beg my mom to tell me what I did that made her stop speaking to me. Sometimes she would just give me this odd smile and not respond and sometimes she would just walk away from me. But the one thing that always happened was that she NEVER answered me. As I got older I started to notice that when my mother would give me the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-63678298160100117382014-10-11T06:30:16.542-05:002014-10-11T06:30:16.542-05:00The silent treatment is one of my mothers favorite...The silent treatment is one of my mothers favorite tactics, she uses it until she has had enough and then enters back into your life like nothing has happened. Every time she has done it to me i have learned to with hold pieces of myself from her, not realizing that that was what she was aiming to achieve. The last time was when i was planning my wedding, she was more concerned with the wedding Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-10929477712951701612014-06-26T13:17:35.072-05:002014-06-26T13:17:35.072-05:00Joan S, thank you for taking the time to share you...Joan S, thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and experiences.Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-49653172667860690122014-06-26T13:16:50.770-05:002014-06-26T13:16:50.770-05:00Thank you, Meredith. Congratulations on your esca...Thank you, Meredith. Congratulations on your escape! Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-51028345666261608792014-06-26T13:14:43.822-05:002014-06-26T13:14:43.822-05:00Anonymous, what you have shared sounds so very fam...Anonymous, what you have shared sounds so very familiar to me and undoubtedly familiar to many other adult children of narcissists. Reading and contemplating the topic of "forgive and forget" may be helpful. Thank you for sharing your experiences.Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-3444521000181008752014-06-25T17:09:07.389-05:002014-06-25T17:09:07.389-05:00I'm sitting here thinking of the silent treatm...I'm sitting here thinking of the silent treatment. Once I remember my mother using it when I closed my bedroom door. I was twelve and was going to change my clothes. She saw me close the door and refused to speak to me for a few days. I did everything to try to please her then. Even making sure never to close the door. And, trying to please her by not leaving her side and being very Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18166248999404159433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-54505692123576781182014-04-23T09:51:54.290-05:002014-04-23T09:51:54.290-05:00Hi Gail,
This was a great article! I love your ter...Hi Gail,<br />This was a great article! I love your term "flying monkey." It's perfect! I went "no contact" with my abusive, narcissistic parents years ago, and I am so glad I did. Well, really, I think my father is more of a sociopath, but my mother is a narcissist. My whole family decided I was bad and mean. <br />Basically I am like Dorothy now, have clicked my heels Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13750343699374909336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-52922251124562593902014-04-21T16:40:51.913-05:002014-04-21T16:40:51.913-05:00My experience is one of years of forgiveness and i...My experience is one of years of forgiveness and ignorance but after years of certain behaviours (it is very subtle) I saw the patterns, especially the destroying my relationships, the arrows in my back, the scapegoating and the silent treatment. I have just started to see - although I don't understand emotionally how someone could be so cruel to their own daughter. My frustration/sadness Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-60010032251457322952014-02-02T09:50:10.975-06:002014-02-02T09:50:10.975-06:00Anonymous, thank you. While we all have to make o...Anonymous, thank you. While we all have to make our own decisions, I am glad you have found this blog helpful. I have seen very small children pick up on treating the scapegoat poorly in my toxic extended family. Then, it was also passed down to the grandchildren, nieces, nephews, etc., causing it to mushroom. So, at times I do think no contact is a healthy choice for the children and Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-38842405312038640162014-01-25T12:11:49.511-06:002014-01-25T12:11:49.511-06:00Hi Gail, thank you for this wonderful blog that ha...Hi Gail, thank you for this wonderful blog that has helped me so much. My husband is the Scapegoat and his father is the NPD. His mother and siblings are completely in the clutches of my NPD father in law and we have gone through hell with the family. Finally, we are leaving them for good, even though my father in law is dying of cancer. Due to how dysfunctional my mother in law is, we want Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com