tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post7831412915691799606..comments2023-08-31T08:12:11.803-05:00Comments on Narcissistic Abuse: Echo Recovery by Gail Meyers: Sons of Narcissistic Personality Disordered MothersGail Meyershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-40813438248713984102017-03-19T03:08:59.589-05:002017-03-19T03:08:59.589-05:00Thank you so much! I just went no-contact a couple...Thank you so much! I just went no-contact a couple of months ago, and I feel so free. Being the only child (and an SoNM), I discovered last month that I enjoy nice, pretty women, fast cars, stainless steel, (after hearing "men are s--t" for many years, I think I am finally embracing my masculine side), I no longer feel lazy or selfish and I got my sense of smell back Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-31475966406042610842016-01-06T22:13:52.366-06:002016-01-06T22:13:52.366-06:00I am the one who wrote the Anonymous on Oct 1,2014...I am the one who wrote the Anonymous on Oct 1,2014. Just to update all of you on the recent developments. After developing bleeding ulcers, my husband also became an alcoholic. After completing 6 weeks of rehab he received a Christmas card from his mother which was his excuse to go back to the bottle (after 3 weeks of sobriety after rehab). I enforced my boundaries that I would not continue to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-90108324109791018642015-11-22T20:16:33.163-06:002015-11-22T20:16:33.163-06:00My narc Mother-in-law loves telling her 3 sons how...My narc Mother-in-law loves telling her 3 sons how she values and thinks so highly of other people.<br />Everything she says is about this person who is wonderful, does everything for her, who is a great guy and just like a son to her. This is her conversation and her M/O for years. Why would a Mother do this to her sons?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-84523652991268123812015-10-23T00:14:11.497-05:002015-10-23T00:14:11.497-05:00The message I pretty much get from others is that ...The message I pretty much get from others is that as long as I smile and give them what they want everyone is happy. <br /><br />So I always laugh and smile. I make no demands. I only help. I am respectful. But, the reality is that I have quit caring. My apathy towards this entire experience is so intense I don't mind anything anymore. It just seems ironic to me to even get mad. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-23682407708058767442015-06-14T10:31:00.326-05:002015-06-14T10:31:00.326-05:00Thank-you for this blog as this has been very enli...Thank-you for this blog as this has been very enlightening especially about the Flying Monkeys. I spent 8 years with a Freudian analyst who never pointed out that my mother was narcissistic. Yet everything I have read here and elsewhere shows that she was in fact almost as extreme as it is possible to be (I was not subjected to overt sexual abuse). Yet all her friends thought she was great and Robnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-41763367506018566042015-05-18T10:13:26.920-05:002015-05-18T10:13:26.920-05:00Thanks for the reply. It's been a while, and t...Thanks for the reply. It's been a while, and the father has died, leaving the GC in charge of the estate. We have received a partial settlement and don't expect anything else to come our way. Once probate is closed, we will be no contact unless the nieces/nephews get in touch with us. Interestingly, in the midst of everything, an old college friend has reconnected who is more of a brotherStrugglingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-14988457912131676892015-04-22T19:10:27.424-05:002015-04-22T19:10:27.424-05:00interested to read this article and comments. I am...interested to read this article and comments. I am concerned about my niece and nephew, especially my nephew at moment, his mother (my ex-sister in law) is a narcissistic sociopath, and he is struggling at moment with his temper, sense of entitlement and selfishness. He's 9, my family is very concerned how to help him. he spends 2 weeks with his mum and only 1 weekend every fortnight with hisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-63971606346284633812015-03-10T12:31:39.031-05:002015-03-10T12:31:39.031-05:00I can so relate. Only I was/am the daughter. Ac...I can so relate. Only I was/am the daughter. Actually, being ostracized by my family of origin is a blessing. No sane person could want to be with them. <br /> Mom did a great job at making me look bad, flaky, odd, stupid...you name it. However, I overcame it by spending time with her (like a good daughter) and the last thing we did together was to watch Laurel and Hardy in her nursing Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-78767497119577781242015-03-07T17:47:49.128-06:002015-03-07T17:47:49.128-06:00Classical narcissistic totally unempathetic that y...Classical narcissistic totally unempathetic that your husband had nervous breakdown...and again its all about her...spotlight on her suffering...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-2823791228365361792015-03-07T17:39:48.189-06:002015-03-07T17:39:48.189-06:00Never ever give up! Its never late to build yourse...Never ever give up! Its never late to build yourself up! Never...even when you seem stranger to your own self...you dont even need partner to make yourself feel loved. Love starts when you start loving, respecting and taking care of yourself.<br />I am scapegoat myself, and hurt and confusion is totally mysterious to people who dont know this pain...I am still learning how to love myself, how to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-18774555957170495792015-02-16T16:10:31.667-06:002015-02-16T16:10:31.667-06:00I am not a therapist, but I can tell you from expe...I am not a therapist, but I can tell you from experience that after my mother died I was also flooded with anger. I continued to process it and it finally subsided. Perhaps a good therapist would be helpful. My brother died in an accident. Gail Meyershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15264365604744921022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-17503030351715918982015-02-15T15:58:54.060-06:002015-02-15T15:58:54.060-06:00If there ever happens to be a monument for the son...If there ever happens to be a monument for the sons and daughters of an extreme narcissistic parent, this should be engraved in the stone (written by Anonymous December 1, 2014 at 5:49 PM), <br />"You had people who were too damaged to be a family."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-16530085415728056782015-02-10T12:41:55.106-06:002015-02-10T12:41:55.106-06:00My spouse is the son of deeply narcissistic mother...My spouse is the son of deeply narcissistic mother and most definitely the scapegoat. She died 2 and a half years ago and has NOT been the same since. He is TOTALLY different person from the one I had known for the prior 18 years. He's MUCH MUCH angrier, for one. Instead of substance abuse (of which he has none) he has a serious rage addiction -- but there are many other differences as Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-30624028123090082912014-12-20T16:27:35.782-06:002014-12-20T16:27:35.782-06:00Thank you for writing this. I have also noticed my...Thank you for writing this. I have also noticed myself that some sites focus on adult children on narcissist in general, while others just focus on daughters of narcissists. I have been a member of AA for many years, and I have just started realizing we extent of the personality disorders that both my parents had. Wow I find the material very helpful, I notice that unlike AA, there seem to be no Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-15577524770331476412014-12-05T03:32:23.660-06:002014-12-05T03:32:23.660-06:00My oldest brother, Claude, was my mom's first ...My oldest brother, Claude, was my mom's first scapegoat. He knew what she was...to some degree...and challenged her often as a teenager. She made his life a living hell. He had a good heart, too. She severely damaged him mentally and emotionally but she couldn't reach his heart. He died in a motorcycle accident in 1993 at the age of 37. I can hardly wait to see him again.Kasarijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03932249680174974850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-28329792906916559232014-12-04T21:16:42.849-06:002014-12-04T21:16:42.849-06:00I have 3 younger brothers. One was diagnosed as N...I have 3 younger brothers. One was diagnosed as NPD, the other is the GC (he literally coddles and protects the NM), and the youngest one goes between both. I was hoping that one of them would at least question my mothers behavior but it seems they are in denial at some level. I'm the scapegoat and I've been in NC and will continue in that status. It angers me to no end that my NPD Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-52040507085785847902014-12-01T19:49:21.645-06:002014-12-01T19:49:21.645-06:00Thanks for sharing this. If you have children, a...Thanks for sharing this. If you have children, and a spouse then please focus only on them and know that you never had a family. You had people who were too damaged to be a family. Make yourself whole. Enjoy your life. Make new friends. I read about how to make friends, how to choose friends, as if I were a child with a learning disability. They need to be shown how to choose the right Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-36817138043167118522014-11-29T22:15:03.359-06:002014-11-29T22:15:03.359-06:00Thank you for your article. I am just starting the...Thank you for your article. I am just starting therapy for my child abuse issues. I didn't know what had happened to me, but I had to end contact with my whole family out of self-defense. I didn't know why my life and sanity were in danger. Thank you so much for providing this article and giving me peace. I am a 49 year old male, eldest son of a narcissistic mother. Now I can have some Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-40627629321265662572014-11-27T23:12:06.011-06:002014-11-27T23:12:06.011-06:00she woke up and found the pan I had forgot to wash...she woke up and found the pan I had forgot to wash. After I had washed her dishes. And told me that I should leave dirty dishes in the sink. I usually don't. But this is hardly an isolated incident. I've lost everything and when I look at it she always comes up. She is dying now drinking herself to death is it really my role to watch her. I don''t need to be here. I could go. I&geoboscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05685354346793726482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-20303559892095243532014-10-06T22:45:17.471-05:002014-10-06T22:45:17.471-05:00I feel your pain. I was trapped with my NM for de...I feel your pain. I was trapped with my NM for decades. She was disabled at an early age and I was the youngest. The older siblings were all gone by the time I was 9. For the next 28 years, my mother abused me and belittled me even as she forced me to be the parent, to cook and clean and do everything to her exacting standards. Of course nothing was ever good enough. I wasn't allowed toAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-21713206222663548182014-10-01T21:27:10.157-05:002014-10-01T21:27:10.157-05:00I have been trying to educate myself on NM since m...I have been trying to educate myself on NM since my husband recently suffered a nervous breakdown. I made the mistake of crossing his mother and sister (the golden child). The punishment started and apologies from me only exacerbated the situation. In fact, my apology was more like my giving permission to keep the punishment flowing. They both started a war against me. Had he divorced me, they Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-82843340280925775382014-09-28T11:27:09.492-05:002014-09-28T11:27:09.492-05:00Dear Anonymous,
I'm 37 too (female) with husba...Dear Anonymous,<br />I'm 37 too (female) with husband and kids. I experience tons of love on a daily basis but still feel extremely unsecure. I used to lay on my bed (as a teenager) and fantasize about a "happy ending" for me. Like as if my life was a movie. The hero (me) had to go through an incredible adventure and then.....happy forever after! I mean I did everything but never Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-48933781554261605982014-09-27T01:05:43.999-05:002014-09-27T01:05:43.999-05:00I am a 37 year old man who had a narcissist mother...I am a 37 year old man who had a narcissist mother. Saying she destroyed me is an understatement. I have never known love and don't expect to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-81406185847260652052014-09-20T14:35:09.342-05:002014-09-20T14:35:09.342-05:00Great article. Thank you for the honor for your br...Great article. Thank you for the honor for your brother. Your article inspired me, and I sent it to my brother. I too, endured sexual abuse. Except I called my mom out on it and I saw through her first, he still doesn't so I hope this article will help him. Cause deep down he has a big heart. God Bless, M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5770134321068387326.post-53451441080299676452014-07-01T20:11:13.857-05:002014-07-01T20:11:13.857-05:00Its been a week now since I have awakened. So, I ...Its been a week now since I have awakened. So, I called my brother to tell him of what I know now. He told me 6 months ago that mother hated him. <br /><br />I called him and told him mother doesn't hate him anymore than she hates anyone else. She just can't get narcissistic supply from him. He's not about drama never was. So I don't know if she even affected him. She won&#Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18166248999404159433noreply@blogger.com