Eleanor D. Payson, MSW Quote | Source
the words of Eleanor D. Payson, MSW and author of The Wizard of Oz and
Other Narcissists, "The word narcissism in its most fundamental sense
means a tendency to self-worship."
However, narcissistic personality personality disorder is a serious
condition that can be especially damaging to the children. It is not
just a shallow or self-centered person, but a fixed personality disorder
that does not change. It can take decades for the children of a
A narcissistic personality disordered mother has flying monkeys. This is a term taken from The Wizard of Oz, where the flying monkeys do the bidding of the Wicked Witch. The flying monkeys may be your neighbor, church members, siblings, aunts, uncles, grandmother, grandfather, nieces, nephews, etc. These people do the narcissist's dirty work and often pour their own abuse on the scapegoat.
I spent years of my life trying to show various flying monkeys the truth. It virtually never worked, not once in the twenty or so years I kept trying to "clear the air" or to finally be understood. They do not understand because they do not want to understand. Many are willfully ignorant and blind to the situation. There is not some magical phrase and method you have not yet discovered that is suddenly going to cause these people to stand up for the truth.
What I have realized is the flying monkeys generally have their own reasons for behaving …