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Narcissistic Mother's Emotional Manipulation

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Narcissistic Mother's Emotional Manipulation by Gail Meyers


©by Gail Meyers

Introduction

While we can all be manipulative at times, there are those among us who chronically emotionally manipulate others. While some people may be manipulative in their communications simply because they have not learned to communicate clearly and directly, there are those who are intentionally manipulative, and even take pride in their trickery. My narcissistic mother not only consistently used manipulation tactics, sometimes it almost seemed as if she perfecting her craft.

Speaking as a survivor of a narcissistic father and mother, this article highlights some ideas to begin processing and paying attention to as we begin or continue coming to terms with the idea that we are not all the same. In other words, we can run into trouble if we put ourselves in the position of the narcissist, decide what we would be thinking or feeling in that situation, and deal with the narcissist accordingly. We are not all the same.

First of all, beginning to notice when someone is pulling us over into emotional reactions in order to get a response that we probably would not otherwise freely give. Secondly, while there are many ways to manipulate, this article draws special attention to manipulation with pity. Although playing the victim while vilifying true victims is covered in a separate article, and we certainly do not want to lose our compassion for true victims, we may want to begin to pay closer attention when someone is inducing pity in us. Lastly, we need to be on the lookout for relationships where FOG is developing: fear, obligation and guilt.
© 2018 Gail Meyers

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